It’s that time of year where you begin to reflect on what you’ve accomplished so far this year and what you haven’t accomplished. Then there’s the family that maybe you’re not looking forward to seeing and the questions you’re not looking forward to answer, such as WHY are you still single or not married. Or the WHEN you will have kids questions. If that wasn’t enough invasion into your personal life its’ the HOW question, where you may be tempted to exaggerate the truth about work, relationships and other things to avoid the follow-up questions.
So to help with overcoming the holiday blues, I’ve listed a few tips that have come in handy for me over the years to help with surviving the holidays.
Answering Work Questions
Do you hate your job and don’t care to answer any questions about work during holiday gatherings? Then focus on talking about how you’re looking to make a change in the New Year and what job you’re interested in having, you never know who knows who so use this as an opportunity to network!
Do you suffer from the need to do it all spirit? Hi, my name is Tiffany, and I tend to take on more than I should. Be empowered by your NO. Balance is everything so practice balance. You may have committed yourself to some things that you may need to go back and say No to so just call apologize and acknowledge that unfortunately, you can’t commit to that task. Or if it’s bigger than a simple Yes or NO commitment, reach out to someone and maybe seek professional help. Let me just say there’s nothing wrong with needing help!
Keep a thankful attitude
Maybe things haven’t been perfect, and perhaps they aren’t perfect now, but is there one thing you can be thankful for? Focus on the things you're grateful for and make a list of them and put them in a place where you can see them. Also; when you feel the blues coming on begin to say the things aloud that you’re thankful for.
The Relationship questions
Relationship questions don’t have to be that bad. The issue is that people want to pry and they usually have a ton of follow-up questions. Then don’t allow them not to be happy with your answers to the questions and then you get cornered for however long…. So try answering the question and then quickly turning the tables on them and asking them a question and it doesn’t have to be about their relationship!
Health is Wealth
Are you taking care of yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically? Don’t underestimate the power of health! Take some time for yourself and do something you enjoy. Usually, during the holidays in most parts of the world the season changes and for me being a Midwestern, it means winter is here! So take time to enjoy the sun when it’s out. I’ve also found journaling to be very therapeutic so try journaling. So the key is to try to move towards wellness and what that means for you…
What tips do you have for surviving the holidays?